When motivating the definitions of line and surface integrals, one usually defines the length and area elements \begin{align*} ds &:= \| \vec{r}^{\, '}(t) \| dt, \\ dA &:= \| \vec{\Sigma}_{u} \times \vec{\Sigma}_{v} \| du dv. \end{align*} The "justification" given is that both expressions approximate the actual real length and area elements. So, one gives geometric justifications (lines and parallelograms). However, there are many ways to approximate the actual real length and area elements. One must generally be careful when working with such "infitesimals", e.g. Is value of $\pi = 4$?.
Question : So, I would like to know if there is a more rigorous way of justifying that the definitions of line and surface integrals are really what we want. For example, why not take $$ ds := 0.9999 \cdot\| \vec{r}^{\, '}(t) \| dt $$ or approximate the length element by a slightly curved segment ?