I'm trying to build an intuition/understanding of the notion of a topology.
I've read the following thread on MO https://mathoverflow.net/questions/19152/why-is-a-topology-made-up-of-open-sets/19691#19691 and several others here, like: Intuition behind topological spaces and still could not convince myself that I've understood the notion properly.
Things I think I've understood are:
When we go 'top-down' and strip spaces off the angles, distances, norms, etc. What we left with is a Topological Space of a form (X, T), which deals with a ground set X and some other explicitly chosen set T that we call Topology and which serves as a structure definition for X. It seems that, since there is no "distance" anymore it is left to explicitly define the relations between the elements of X, which is now the job of T. A case of topologies induced by a metric is rather a special case and not the general.
Q: I am interested in the general case of topologies, not induced by a metric. If say, I set T explicitly for my X like this: $$X = \{A,B,C,D,E\}$$ $$ T = \{X, \emptyset, \{A, B\},\{B, C\}, \{A,B,C\},\{B\}\}$$
Does T here somehow define, which elements of X are near to / far from every other element? Since there is no distance here defined, then my guess is that "far/near" will be a binary value, which will tell us which elements from X are connected to each other and which are not, making X look like a non-directed graph.
Also, how exactly do we choose the rule by which we say that, e.g. A is near/connected to B or not? Is it fixed or freely defined?
Furthermore, if above is the case, then isn't this "rule" also something like a metric?
Could you please list these connections in the above X according to T? If I am not wrong, then they are all unconnected / far from each other.