A definition of "symmetric" which should prove useful here is: if < , > is a canonically chosen inner product, we say T is symmetric if and only if for all vectors $u,v \in V$ we have < u, Tv> = < Tu, v>.
Assume that the dimension of V is equal to the sum of the dimensions of the eigenspaces $E_1,...,E_k$ associated to the eigenvalues $\lambda_1,...,\lambda_k$. Then we can write any vectors $u,v \in V$ as $\sum_{i=1}^k u_i$ and $\sum_{i=1}^k v_i$ respectively. < u, Tv> can then be rewritten <$\sum u_i$, T $\sum v_i$> = < $\sum u_i$, $\sum T v_i$> = < $\sum u_i$, $\sum \lambda_i v_i$>.
Now we use orthogonality. If the eigenspaces are orthogonal to eachother, then this expression becomes $\sum$ < $u_i$, $\lambda_i v_i$> = $\sum \lambda_i$< $u_i$, $v_i$> = $\sum$ < $\lambda_i u_i$, $v_i$> = < $\sum \lambda_i u_i$, $\sum v_i$> = < Tu, v>.
The reverse implication isn't hard, simply consider the equality < u, Tv> = < Tu, v> when u, v are two eigenvectors corresponding to two different eigenvalues.