Linear Algebra (2015 5 ed) by Lay, p. 397. Theorem 7.1 involves only real numbers.
Let:
$A^* = \bar{A}^T $.
$v_i$ and $v_j$ be two eigenvectors of an Hermitian matrix H. Suppose that their respective eigenvalues i and j are different, i.e. $\lambda_i \neq \lambda_j$. This means $Hv_i = \lambda_iv_i$ and $Hv_j > = \lambda_jv_j \quad (3)$.
Take the Hermitian conjugate of $Hv_i = \lambda_iv_i$:
$\begin{align} (Hv_i)^* & = (\lambda_iv_i)^* \\ \implies v_i^* H^* & = > v_i^* \lambda_i^* \\ v_i^* H & = \qquad \qquad \text{ > because H* = H } \\ & = v_i^* \lambda_i \qquad \text{ because > http://math.stackexchange.com/q/462982/53259 } \end{align}$
Right-multiply the previous equation by $\color{green}{v_j}: \qquad > v_i^*H \color{green}{v_j} = v_i^* \lambda_i \color{green}{v_j} \qquad > (4)$
Left-multiply (3) by $\color{orangered}{v_i^*} : \quad > \color{orangered}{v_i^*}Hv_j = \color{orangered}{v_i^*} \lambda_jv_j > \qquad (5)$.
Equate the RHS of (4) and (5): $\quad v_i^* \lambda_i > \color{green}{v_j} = \color{orangered}{v_i^*} \lambda_jv_j \qquad > \blacksquare$.
I understand, and ask not about, the algebra. What's the proof strategy? For example, how can you divine when to take the Hermitian conjugate, what to multiply, and when to left- or right-multiply?