This is an ugly problem, I'm afraid. The function $s(θ)$ that gives the arclength for a given $θ$ is a nasty integral that can only be computed numerically. Then you want to solve $s(θ)=A$ to get the $θ$ value corresponding to a given $A$. That also has to be done numerically. Quite a mess.
Unless you need a very accurate answer, I suggest just replacing the ellipse by a string of line segments. To get engineering/manufacturing accuracies, a few hundred line segments is probably enough. You can step along the line segments until you get the arclength you want. On the last line segment, you should do linear interpolation to get the final answer point. Then just calculate the $\theta$ value of this final point.