The question means "diagonalizable by congruence," not by similarity. Any square symmetric matrix over a field of characteristic $\ne$2 is diagonalizable by congruence. Here's an outline. The best reference I know is W. L. Ferrar's old book Algebra (Oxford U. P. 1957.)
Use the correspondence between symmetric matrices and quadratic forms.
Successively apply linear transformations (equivalent to multiplying on the left and right by a by a non-singular matrix and its transpose) of the following types
(i) if there is at least one diagonal term: new variable = linear combination of old variables to remove off-diagonal terms (ii) if there are some off-diagonal terms but no diagonal terms: old variable=new variable + another old variable. This transformation will force a diagonal term in the new variables. You can then apply another transformation of type (i). By applying these transformations successively, you can diagonalize the matrix by congruence.