I'm looking at this and stuck immediately first paragraph, page 24:
This can be made precise by giving a better definition of product, in terms of a universal property. Given two sets $M$ and $N$, a product is a set $P$, along with maps $µ : P → M$ and $ν : P → N$, such that for any set $P′$ with maps $µ′ : P′ → M$ and $ν′ : P′ → N$, these maps must factor uniquely through $P$:
What got me was the last line "these maps must factor uniquely through $P$". I realize this is precise language, but what is meant by factoring uniquely through $P$? Then just a few lines later it says
This definition agrees with the traditional definition, with one twist: there isn’t just a single product; but any two products come with a unique isomorphism between them. In other words, the product is unique up to unique isomorphism.
If we have two products $(a_1,b_1)$ and $(a_2,b_2)$, what is meant by they come with a unique isomorphism between them? Then he talks about the diagram communting. Again, not sure what that means. Any help appreciated.