Let's take the axioms of a group. We have a binary operator, $*$, and the axioms state that there is a neutral element, $e$, and that $*$ is associative, and for every $x$ there is $y$ such that $x*y=e$.
Question. Is it true that for every $x,y$ it holds that $x*y=y*x$?
Well, there are infinitely many proofs from these finitely many axioms. So how can we tell? Checking them one by one is futile.
The answer is that if this was provable, then every model of the axioms would also satisfy the above property. In other words, every group would be commutative. So if we can find a group which is not commutative, then we effectively proved that the axioms of a group are not sufficient for proving that for every $x$ and $y$, $x*y=y*x$.
And indeed, it is not hard to find non-commutative groups.
So, going back to $\sf ZF$ and $\Bbb Q$-linear operators on $\Bbb R$. How would you prove that $\sf ZF$ is not sufficient for proving the existence of such discontinuous operators? Well, you'd show that there are models of $\sf ZF$ in which there are no such operators.
Now we know that any $\Bbb Q$-linear operator which is also Baire measurable is continuous (one can also use Lebesgue measurability, for example). So if we can find a model of $\sf ZF$ in which every such linear function is Baire measurable, then every such function is also continuous.
And indeed, this was shown possible by Solovay, and later improved upon by Shelah. In other words, they exhibited models of $\sf ZF$ in which every function $f\colon\Bbb{R\to R}$ is Baire measurable, and in particular any $\Bbb Q$-linear operator. So every such operator is continuous.
These constructions are extremely technical utilising not only the technique of forcing, but also extended techniques of symmetric extensions, and often relying on theorems in analysis as well. But with time, one can learn them.
TL;DR: To prove that some axioms don't prove a statement, it is usually easier to prove that there is a model of the axioms where the statement is false. This is true for $\sf ZF$ as well.
To show that the axiom of choice is necessary for proving something we need to show that:
- $\sf ZFC$ implies this something, and
- there is a model of $\sf ZF$ where this something is false.
The difficult part—conceptually—is getting your head around models of $\sf ZF$, because it's the foundation of mathematics. But once you've gone through that step, the rest is just a technicality.