I'll use a concrete definition of a dihedral group $D_{2n}$ which emphasizes its group structure:
$D_{2n}$ consists of distinct elements $r_0,...,r_{n-1},s_0,...,s_{n-1}$ so that for any $i \in \mathbb{Z}$ we have $r_{i + n} = r_i, s_{i + n} s_i$ and for any $i,j \in \mathbb{Z}$ we have $r_ir_j = r_{i + j}, r_is_j = s_{i + j}, s_ir_j = s_{i - j}, s_is_j = r_{i - j}$.
It's easy to see that all $r_i's$ commute in $D_{2n}$, hence the only elements for which it is possible not to commute are $s_i$ and $s_j$ or $r_i$ and $s_j$.
$s_is_j = s_js_i$ whenever $i - j \equiv j - i \bmod n$ and $r_is_j = s_jr_i$ whenever $i + j \equiv i - j \bmod n$, hence $D_{2n}$ is noncommutative if and only if either
there is $0 \leq j < n$ so that $n\nmid 2j$, or
there are $0 \leq i,j < n$ so that $n\nmid 2(i - j)$.
Using this result, it's not hard to establish that $D_2$ and $D_4$ are abelian.
I wonder how we can use this to prove that $D_{2n}$ is not abelian for $n \geq 3$. I'm not interested in a possible geometric proof.