I'm reading Michael Henle's A Combinatorial Introduction to Topology where he defines topological spaces and nearness thusly:
A topological space is a set together with the choice of a class of subsets N of (each of which is called a neighborhood of its points) such that
(a) Every point is in some neighborhood.
(b) The intersection of any two neighborhoods of a point contains a neighborhood of that point.
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Let be a topological space. Let A be a subset of and P be a point of . P is near A, written P ← A, if every neighborhood of P contains a point of A.
I'm more familiar with category theory than topology, so I tried to extend nearness to a binary relation between sets so I could use it to define morphisms between subsets of :
Given A, B ⊆ , say A ← B if ∀ P ∈ A, P ← B
But then after rereading the normal definition of nearness, I realized that there's no requirement that this binary relation is reflexive or transitive, so this definition is useless for defining a category.
For example, I could define a topological space on ℝ2 where a neighborhoods of a point are open disks around the reflection of that point about the diagonal x=y; that is a neighborhood of (a,b) is { (x,y) | (x - b)2 + (y - a)2 < δ2 }.
In this topological space, my extension on nearness is neither reflexive nor transitive. (a,b) ← { (b,a) }, and (b,a) ← { (a,b) }, but (a,b) ← { (a,b) } only if a = b.
My question is, how often do topological spaces like this come up? Is there a name for topological spaces where the extension of nearness to a binary relationship between sets is non-reflexive and/or non-transitive?