The standard way is that of switching to a pair of rotated axes: $X=(x-y)/\sqrt2$, $Y=(x+y)/\sqrt2$. You'll get then a standard parabola equation in the $(X,Y)$ plane and once you've found the vertex you can switch back to $(x,y)$. The result for the vertex turns out to be $(3/8,-23/8)$. Your method is flawed because your coordinate transformation is not an isometry or a similitude.
If you don't want to use rotations, I can show you some alternate method.
EDIT.
First of all we must find the direction of the axis. Notice that every line parallel to the axis intersects the parabola at a single point, i.e. substituting the equation of the line into the equation of the parabola must give a linear equation. This is possible only if the quadratic part of the parabola equation is a constant, that is: $x+y=a$. This is then the equation of a generic line parallel to the axis, and it is bent at an angle of 45° with the $y$ axis; to have a standard parabola equation we must then perform a 45° counterclockwise rotation of the axes.
But we can find the vertex even without rotations: a generic line perpendicular to the axis has equation $y=x+b$ and the vertex is the only point where such a line meets the parabola at a single point. Substituting the equation of the line into that of the parabola gives:
$$
(2x+b)^2+10x+4b+3=0,
\quad\text{that is:}\quad
4x^2+(4b+10)x+b^2+4b+3=0.
$$
This has a single solution if its discriminant vanishes, that is if:
$$
(4b+10)^2-16(b^2+4b+3)=0,
\quad\text{whence:}\quad
b=-{13\over4}.
$$
With this value of $b$ the solution of the intersection equation is
$$
x={-(4b+10)\over8}={3\over8},
\quad\text{and}\quad
y=x+b=-{23\over8}.
$$
These are then the coordinates of the vertex.
EDIT 2.
There is another way, if you want, to find the direction of the axis, exploiting this property of any parabola: the line joining the midpoints of two parallel chords is parallel to the axis.
Take then two parallel lines intersecting your parabola, e.g.:
$$
y=0,\ \text{intersecting at:}\ x=-3\pm\sqrt{6},\ \text{midpoint:}\ M_1=(-3,0)\\
y=1,\ \text{intersecting at:}\ x=-4\pm\sqrt{8},\ \text{midpoint:}\ M_2=(-4,1).
$$
Line $M_1M_2$ has equation $y+x=-3$ and is then parallel to the axis.