[Preface: please excuse my mathematical naïveté...]
I've learned (via: https://ncatlab.org/nlab/show/specialization+topology) that there is a way to turn any topological space $(X, \tau)$ into a pre-ordered set (Proset).
Interpreted as a proset, the binary $\leq$ relation (or lack thereof) between all the points of a space makes a lot more intuitive sense than defining a topological space as being built from open sets (which are just subsets that obey some arbitrary-looking axioms). The binary relation of a proset immediately makes clear the notion of adjacency/nearness/closeness between points and the notion of connectedness, whereas the notion of open sets feels like just blindly following rules.
[@HenningMakholm pointed out this is wrong:]
Moreover, once we consider a metric space, it is easily recognizable how a topological space generalizes a metric space. If we consider a topological space as a proset with just a binary $\leq$ relation between points then there is no notion of distance, however, if we define a metric on a space you automatically get a $\leq$ relation between points. E.g. for a metric space $(M, d)$ (where $M$ is a set and $d$ the metric function), then for any $a, b \in M$ we can choose an arbitrary point $c \in M$ to be our "origin" and then $a \leq b$ if $d(a,c) \leq d(b,c)$.
So my question is (assuming I haven't made totally fallacious statements thus far), given that prosets make topological notions far more intuitive and easy to reason about, why is topology developed with the mystifying (at least initially until you acquire an intuition) definition of open sets rather than prosets?