Take this as the definition of infinite unions and intersections:
$x \in A_1 \cup A_2 \cup A_3 \dots $ if and only if $x \in A_i$ for at least one $i \in \mathbb N$.
$x \in A_1 \cap A_2 \cap A_3 \dots $ if and only if $x \in A_i$ for all $i \in \mathbb N$.
This makes perfect sense as it is. There is no need for a limiting procedure.
(In fact, there is even no need to assume that there are countably many $A_i$'s...)
The reason that sum of a series is different is that we define it inductively. Say we're trying to work out
$$ a_1 + a_2 + a_3 + a_4\dots $$
Well, let $S_i$ be the sum of the first $i$ terms. Then you define
$$ S_1 = a_1, \ \ \ \ S_2 = S_1+ a_2, \ \ \ \ S_3 = S_2 + a_3, \ \ \ \ S_4 = S_3 + a_4, \dots $$
But the problem with this is that, no matter how many steps you do, you will never reach $S_\infty$. This is why summing infinite series requires a special procedure.