Let X = min(S, T), Y = max(S, T) for independent exponential ($\lambda$) variables S, T. Let Z = Y - X.
Find the joint density of X and Z. Are they independent? Identify the marginal distributions of X and Z.
Let X = min(S, T), Y = max(S, T) for independent exponential ($\lambda$) variables S, T. Let Z = Y - X.
Find the joint density of X and Z. Are they independent? Identify the marginal distributions of X and Z.
Here is an exploration of your problem using simulation in R statistical software, with some additional hints. I used $\lambda = 0.1$, so $E(S) = SD(S) = 10$ and $E(T) = SD(T) = 10.$ For a million iterations of your experiment, here are some findings (correct to about three significant digits).
s = rexp(10^6, .1); t = rexp(10^6, .1)
x = pmin(s,t); y = pmax(s,t)
z = y - x
mean(x); sd(x)
## 5.004163 # aprx E(X)
## 5.01231 # aprx SD(X)
mean(y); sd(y)
## 15.0305 # aprx E(Y)
## 11.19881 # aprx SD(Y)
mean(z); sd(z)
## 10.02633 # aprx E(Z)
## 10.01379 # aprx SD(Z)
Here are histograms of the simulated distributions of $X, Y,$ and $Z$. The density curve of $Exp(2\lambda)$ is a good fit to the histogram of $X.$ The distribution of $Y$ is clearly not exponential [notice the shape of the histogram and the fact that $E(Y) \ne SD(Y)$.] The density curve of $Exp(\lambda)$ is a good fit to the histogram of $Z$.
To derive the distribution of $X,$ notice that its CDF is $$ F_X(u) = 1 - P(X > u) = 1- P(S > u)P(T > u) = 1- e^{-\lambda u}e^{-\lambda u} = 1- e^{-2\lambda u},$$ and differentiate the CDF to find the PDF.
To derive the distribution of $Y,$ notice that its CDF is $$ F_Y(u) = P(Y \le u) = P(S \le u)P(T \le u) = \cdots ,$$ and differentiate the CDF to find the (nonexponential) PDF. As a check, you can see that $E(Y) = \frac{1}{2\lambda} + \frac{1}{\lambda}.$ Roughly, the rationale is that the mean is the sum of the waiting time for the minimum [at which time we start the clock again because of the 'no-memory' property] and we wait another $1/\lambda$ unit of time for the second exponential event to occur.
To find the distribution of $Z$ ponder the intuitive rationale above for $E(Y)$ and @Henry's Hint.
This does not answer everything you asked, but I hope it gives you enough hints and intuition to finish the rest for yourself.