1. It turns out that a centered Gaussian process is Markov if and only if its covariance function $\Gamma: \mathbb{R}\times\mathbb{R} \to \mathbb{R}$ satisfies the equality:
$$\Gamma(s,u)\Gamma(t,t)=\Gamma(s,t)\Gamma(t,u)\ \ \ \ (1)$$
for all $s<t<u$.
It turns out to be difficult to find a clear proof of the above fact; one that I found but did not understand well was: Example 4.5, p.119 of Random Processes for Engineers by Bruce Hajek, or Example 4.7 on pp. 120-121.
2. Moreover, unlike most stochastic processes, Gaussian processes are uniquely and completely determined by their covariance functions (I believe up to the mean function).
I.e., given any two stochastic process, if it is known that they are Gaussian, and further that their covariance functions are exactly the same, then they must be the exact same process (again, I believe up to mean function).
Hence, if you can show that a Gaussian process is stationary and satisfies equation (1) if and only if it has covariance function equal to that of the Ornstein-Uhlenbeck process, then you are done.
3. With regards to:
"how to deduce 'exponential decay' of correlation function R(t)R(t) from Markovian property"
I believe this follows from equation (1) combined with the multiplicative form of the Cauchy functional equation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cauchy%27s_functional_equation.
See also here: Overview of basic facts about Cauchy functional equation
Basically, any measurable function such that $f(x+y)=f(x)+f(y)$ (additivity) must be linear, and any measurable function $g$ such that $g(x+y)=g(x)g(y)$ must be an exponential.