The answer is no. Note that for this isomorphism each rational number must be mapped to itself: let $\phi$ be the required field isomorphism. Then a property of field homomorphism is that $\phi(q)=q$ $\forall q\in\mathbb{Q}$. More explicitly, given a field $F$, a field homomorphism must satisfy $\phi(ax+b)=\phi(a)\phi(x)+\phi(b)$ for $a,x,b\in F$. Therefore, any rational number $m/n$ ends up \begin{equation}\phi\left(\frac{m}{n}\right)=\frac{\phi(m)}{\phi(n)}=\frac{m\phi(1)}{n\phi(1)}=\frac{m}{n}\end{equation}
Therefore, we are left with $\phi(\pm\sqrt{2})=\pm i\sqrt{2}$. For example, suppose $\phi(\sqrt{2})=i\sqrt{2}$. Then
\begin{equation}\phi(\sqrt{2})^{2}=\phi(2)=2=(i\sqrt{2})^{2}=-2\end{equation}
a contradiction. You can easily show that any combination of $\pm$ signs lead to similar contradiction. Thus the supposed isomorphism cannot exist.
The reason I show this explicitly is because this is actually a standard method of eliminating certain isomorphisms, which become important when you reach Galois theory even!
As for your method, I think you are right that if a polynomial is irreducible in one field and not in the other field, then they are not isomorphic. I think you need to explicitly prove that indeed it is the case, because I think you may have "begged the question": the statement that they are algebraically indistinguishable is precisely the question.