I just started learning applied probability. What does mean and variance actually signify? If we want to relate the event of getting head or a tail on a coin toss to $X = 0, 1$ respectively, our mean (or expected value) would be $0(\frac{1}{2}) + 1(\frac{1}{2}) = \frac{1}{2} $; by following the definition: $ E[X] = \sum_{i}x_ip_{X}(x_i) $.
But rather if we consider the values of $X = 1, 2$ to be mapped with the events of getting a head or a tail, our mean would now become $1(\frac{1}{2}) + 2(\frac{1}{2}) = 1.5$.
There is nothing in-between a head or a tail in this experiment. Moreover, the mean or variance change depending on how the random variables are chosen. (If mean varies, it is obvious that variance also varies). So what does mean and variance actually signify, especially if $X$ is discreet and each value of $X$ is mapped with totally independent events.