I recently asked this question asking why my reasoning for ZF being inconsistent was wrong. I didn't realize that we have to account for models with non-standard integers. However, I'm left with the question of what proof techniques (not theorems) can be represented within the deductive calculus. For example, say we have the self-referential sentence $\sigma$ such that $$T \vdash (\sigma \leftrightarrow \text{Prb}_T ( \neg \text{Prb}_T \sigma))$$ where $T$ is any sufficiently powerful theory and $\text{Prb}_T \sigma$ represents $T \vdash \sigma$.
Now, assuming throughout that $T$ is consistent, if we have $T \vdash \sigma$ then by the definition of $\sigma$ we have $T \vdash\text{Prb}_T ( \neg \text{Prb}_T \sigma)$. This implies $T \vdash \neg \text{Prb}_T \sigma$. But by the reflection principle for our hypothesis we have $T \vdash \text{Prb}_T \sigma$, a contradiction. So we just proved (meta-mathematically) that assuming $T$ is consistent we must have $T \nvdash \sigma$. This means by the definition of $\sigma$ that $T \nvdash \text{Prb}_T (\neg \text{Prb}_T \sigma)$ implying $T \nvdash \neg \text{Prb}_T \sigma$. This means that there is no proof within $T$ of $T \nvdash \sigma$. We did though provide a meta-mathematical proof that $T \nvdash \sigma$.
I realize that there is no contradiction here: From Godel's incompleteness theorem we know there are many sentences which cannot be proven or disproven in $T$. However, that doesn't negate the fact that we do have a meta-mathematical proof of $T \nvdash \sigma$. So I guess my question is how do we classify this proof if it cannot be represented in $T$. Are there actually models in which $T \models \sigma$ and if so what are they? Or am I confusing two different concepts?