Hermitian metrics and real-valued metrics
The notion of a Hermitian metric arises naturally if one considers a complex vector space as its underlying real vector space with extra structure, and asks what the notion of a metric which "plays nicely" with that extra structure should be.
Complex vector spaces
Consider $V$ a complex vector space, i.e. it has a scalar multiplication $\mathbb{C} \times V \rightarrow V$ and satisfies the vector space properties. Then $V$ is also a real vector space (of twice the dimension, if it is finite dimensional) using the restriction of scalar multiplication $\mathbb{R} \times V \rightarrow V$.
The extra structure that $V$ has as a complex vector space is simply multiplication by $i$. That is, considering $V$ as a real vector space, we have a map $J : V \rightarrow V$ given by scalar multiplication by $i$. This map is linear and has $J^2 = -I$. (From this we can recover the structure of a complex vector space for $V$ as now we know how to scalar multiply by $a+bi$ by using the linear map $aI + bJ$.)
Introducing a real-valued metric
Now let's introduce a real-valued metric on $V$, which is a symmetric, positive-definite bilinear form $g: V \times V \rightarrow \mathbb{R}$ which is $\mathbb{R}$-linear.
How should $g$ interact with the extra structure of multiplication by $i$, which we've denoted $J : V \rightarrow V$?
The natural choice is to require $J$ to be an isometry with respect to $g$. That is, $g(Jv,Jw) = g(v,w)$. Why is this the natural choice?
Multiplication by $i$ on the complex plane with the usual metric is rotation counterclockwise by $90^\circ$, an isometry.
If we consider $\mathbb{C}^n$ as $\mathbb{R}^{2n}$ and put the standard metric on $\mathbb{R}^{2n}$ then multiplication by $i$ is an isometry: it's rotation by $90^\circ$ on each of the complex coordinate axes.
With $J^2 = -I$, which is an isometry, requiring $J$ to be an isometry as well is a fairly natural choice for how $J$ and $g$ should interact.
It ends up working out quite nicely algebraically.
Consequences
Now we have $V$ a real vector space with the extra structure of multiplication by $i$, denote $J: V \rightarrow V$, and with a metric $g$, satisfying $g(Jv,Jw) = g(v,w)$.
Claim: $g(v,Jv) = 0$.
Proof: $g(v,Jv) = g(Jv,J^2v) = g(Jv,-v) = g(-v,Jv) = -g(v,Jv)$, so it must be zero.
A symplectic form for free
Define a bilinear form $\omega: V \times V \rightarrow \mathbb{R}$ via $\omega(v,w) = g(v,Jw)$.
Then $\omega(v,v) = 0$, so $\omega$ is alternating. It's also non-degenerate, because $g$ is and $J$ is invertible. Therefore it's a symplectic form (an alternating non-degenerate bilinear form on $V$).
The Hermitian form
A Hermitian form is a different sort of object than $g$ or $\omega$: it's a real-bilinear form valued in $\mathbb{C}$, i.e. a bilinear map $V \times V \rightarrow \mathbb{C}$, which moreover is non-degenerate, satisfies $h(\lambda v,w) = \lambda h(v,w)$ and $h(v,\lambda w) = \overline{\lambda} h(v,w)$, and satisfies $h(v,w) = \overline{h(w,v)}$.
Let $h = g + i \omega$. Notice that we built this entirely out of $g$, with $h(v,w) = g(v,w) + i g(v,Jw)$. I claim this is a Hermitian metric.
Testing scalar multiplication in the first factor:
$h(av,w) = g(av,w) + i g(av,Jw) = a(g(v,w) + i g(v,Jw)) = a\, h(v,w)$.
And $h((bi)v,w) = g(bJv,w) + i g(bJv,Jw) = g(-bv,Jw) + i g(bv,w) = (bi)(g(v,w) + i g(v,w)) = (bi) h(v,w)$.
So $h(\lambda v,w) = \lambda h(v,w)$ for $\lambda \in \mathbb{C}$.
Testing scalar multiplication in the second factor:
$h(v,aw) = g(v,aw) + i g(v,aJw) = a(g(v,w) + i g(v,Jw)) = a\, h(v,w)$.
And $h(v,(bi)w) = g(v,bJw) + i g(v,bJ^2w) = b( g(v,Jw) - i g(v,w)) = (-bi)(g(v,w) + i g(v,w)) = (-bi) h(v,w)$.
So $h(v,\lambda w) = \overline{\lambda} h(v,w)$ for $\lambda \in \mathbb{C}$.
One also has:
$h(w,v) = g(w,v) + i \omega(w,v) = g(v,w) - i \omega(v,w) = \overline{h(v,w)}$.
Therefore:
$h$ is a Hermitian form. In fact, every Hermitian form arises in this way:
Going back
Starting with a Hermitian form $h$, let $g = \mathfrak{Re}(h)$ and $\omega = \mathfrak{Im}(h)$. Then you can check that $g$ is a real metric and $\omega$ is a symplectic form and equals $g(v,Jw)$.
In coordinates
Consider $\mathbb{C}^n$ with underlying real vector space $\mathbb{R}^{2n}$ with the standard real-valued metric on $\mathbb{R}^{2n}$. As noted above, multiplication by $i$ is an isometry for this metric.
Write $\mathbb{R}^{2n} = \mathbb{R}^n \oplus \mathbb{R}^n$, with multiplication by $i$ an isomorphism from the first factor to the second. Write $(v_j)_{j=1}^n$ for the standard basis for the first factor and $(Jv_j)_{j=1}^n$ for the corresponding standard basis for the second factor.
Then (using Einstein summation notation):
$h(a_jv_j + b_jJv_j, c_k v_k + d_k J v_k)$ is equal to
$g(a_jv_j + b_jJv_j, c_k v_k + d_k J v_k) + i g(a_jv_j + b_jJv_j, c_k Jv_k - d_k v_k)$
which equals
$a_j c_j + b_j d_j + i(- a_j d_j + b_j c_j)$
which equals
$(a_j + i b_j)(c_j - i d_j)$
This is the standard Hermitian form $\left<z,w\right> = z_j \overline{w}_j$
An alternate convention
An alternative convention is to define $\omega(v,w) = g(Jv,w)$. This leads to a variant in which $g+i\omega$ is conjugate-linear in the first factor and linear in the second. That is, the standard form you'd get on $\mathbb{C}^n$ would be $\left<z,w\right> = \overline{z}_j w_j$.
I make no claims that the above is "What is a $\ldots$ Hermitian metric?" quality.
Hermitian metrics are one place that typical undergraduate curricula gloss over. In my experience, one tends not to learn the above until studying complex manifolds or complex algebraic geometry.