I wasn't surprised, after reading your title, to find that you used the word "now" in the body of your post. It's difficult to ask your question unless you believe that there exists something external to and independent of you which "now" captures. There isn't. Well, let me qualify that: as long as we're all living within a light second of each other (Mars varies between 3 and 22 light-minutes from Earth, the Moon is ~1 light-seconds away) and we're not (disparately) subject to relativistic forces, we can all share an approximate "now" among ourselves. Not only does our language and much of our thinking involve this now concept, but we're probably hard-wired to treat it as a fact. Seeing someone use some other norm is disconcerting and unintuitive. Lectures and books on relativity usually discuss space-time diagrams. These diagrams include light-cones and separate the Universe into 3 parts: the time-like part, the space-like part and the light-like (or null-interval) surface. For Modern Physics, which prefers frame invariant language, the logical meaning of "now" is the point of intersection of the forward and past light cones. This gives us an observer dependent "now", and allows us to describe an observation from a black hole 70 million light years away as being BOTH 70 million years away and 70 million light-years distant. Any claim about what that black hole is doing "now" in the popular sense, is unfalsifiable (for the next 70 million years or so) and isn't very interesting (and very much useless) to empirical science. Its (popular) narrative, however, suffers in translation from the Astronomical/Cosmological "now" to the popular one.
If we talk about the status of the Red-spot on Jupiter, or the surface of Pluto in the present tense then I can reasonably be certain that is the state of play at the present. It might be the case that most galaxies have now been consumed by their black holes, fundamentally changing my understanding of the universe.
– Peter Brand Jul 16 '16 at 23:27