It's a puzzle you are working backwards to find values that work.
We have $\epsilon>0$ we found it on the ground and said "Hey, lets use this epsilon".
We are imagining and daydreaming about wouldn't it be wonderful if we had a $C$ so that $|x+3| < C$. We don't actually have this but we are imagining "what if".
If we had such a $C$ it would be a positive number. And $\epsilon$ is a positive number. So $\frac {\epsilon}C$ is a positive number.
So we had that dreamy magical wouldn't it be nice $C$ we could just take $\frac \epsilon C$ and call it $\delta$. Let's imagine we did that.
Then we can pick an $x$ so that $|x-3| < \delta$. We can do that by noting that $\delta$ is a positive number, so we just pick some $x$ that is within $\delta$ of $3$. That is picking $x$ so that $3-\delta < x < 3+\delta$.
Okay we did that.
So $|x-3| < \delta = \frac \epsilon C$. That fine.
Now.... just multiply both sides by $C$. ... You can.... $C$ is a positive number so just multiply both sides by it.
$C|x-3| < \delta*C = \frac \epsilon C*C = \epsilon$.
Well, that's handy.
Now $C > |x+3|$. Why? Well, because we really want it to be. Remember we don't actually have $C$ yet. We are only daydreaming (well, speculating) what would have if we had a $C$ so that $C > |x+3|$.
Well, if we had and $|x+3 | < C$ we could multiply both side but $|x-3|$ and get
$|x-3||x+3| < C|x-3|$ and we have $C|x-3| < \epsilon$ so we would have
$|x-3||x+3| < C|x-3| < \epsilon$.
And that would be freaking awesome! Because we would be done and have proven every thing we want to prove.
We can pick any $\epsilon > 0$ of the ground. We take the $C$ we have. We let $\delta = \frac {\epsilon}C$. Then whenever we pick $x$ so that $|x-3| < \delta$ we have $|x^2 -9| = |x-3||x+3| < |x-3|C < \delta C = \epsilon$ and that would prove $\lim_{x\to 3} x^2 = 9$.
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But... we have to have that $C$. And so for $C$ is just a daydream.
But what do we need to find the $C$? We need $|x-3| < \delta$ and we need $|x+3| < C$. We want both of those to be true.
Now we want $\delta$ to be small so we can assume $\delta < 1$ and $x$ is within $1$ of the number $3$. We don't actually know what $\delta$ will until we figure out what $C$ is but we don't know what $C$ is. So we fudge. We'll assume $\delta < 1$. If by some bad bit of luck we get $\delta = \frac {\epsilon} C \ge 1$ well, well ust pick $\delta = 1$ instead.
So $x$ is within $\delta$ of $3$ then $2 < x < 4$ and we so $5 < x+3 < 7$ and $|x+3| < 7$.
So that is our magincal daydream number Let $x = 7$. And let $\delta =\frac \epsilon 7$. That will work if $\frac \epsilon 7 \le 1$.
But if $\frac \epsilon 7> 1$ we can use $\delta = 1$.
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That's how we puzzled it all out.... but lets see if it works:
We pick up an $epsilon $ off the ground.
We let $\delta = \min (\frac \epsilon 7, 1)$ that is if $\epsilon \ge 7$ we let $\delta =1$ and if $\epsilon < 7$ we let $\delta = \frac \epsilon 7$.
We pick an $x$ so that $3-\delta < x < 3+\delta$ or, in other word, so that $|x-3| < \delta$.
If $\epsilon \ge 7$ and $\delta =1$ then $2 < x < 4$ and $4 < x^2 < 16$ and so $-5 < x^2 - 9 < 7$ and $|x^2 - 9| < 7 \le \epsilon$ and we are done. We found there is a $\delta$ for all $\epsilon \ge 7$ that satisfies what we want.
But that was the dumb case. We have to also show it for all the $\epsilon < 7$.
Okay. If $|x-3| < \delta = \frac {\epsilon}7\le 1$ that's a start.
But then $2< 3-\delta < x < 3+\delta < 4$ so $5 < x +3 < 7$ so $|x+3| < 7$
So $|x^2-9| = |x-3||x+3| < \delta*7 = \frac {\epsilon}7*7 = \epsilon$.
And that's it! We proved it. For every $\epsilon > 0$ there is a $\delta$ so that $|x-3| \implies |x^2 -9| < \epsilon$. We just had to make for that if $\epsilon \le 7$ that $\delta = \frac \epsilon 7$ and if $\epsilon > 7$ that $\delta = 1$.
(Actually we could pick an delta smaller if we wanted to.)